This is Ashley's second blog post concerning her first two weeks studying abroad in Salamanca.
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Now that I am nearing the end of my first two weeks in Salamanca, my culture shock has greatly subsided and has been replaced with a cultural understanding. Things are obviously still very different than back at home in San Diego; however, I am finding myself understanding and appreciating why they are different a little more everyday.
There are two very valuable lessons my newfound understanding has taught me. The first is the difference between the words need and want; and the second is that sometimes less can be more.
Back at home when I “needed” to get something from the store, I had the luxury of hopping in my car and driving there. Once at the store, I would mindlessly grab other items I “realized I needed” once I passed by them in the aisle. However, during my first trip to the grocery store in Spain, I quickly learned the additional items were simply things I wanted and that it is time to leave them behind. My first day in Salamanca, my roommate and I went to the store to buy some groceries and a few “essentials” for our apartment; yet despite our intentions of only buying things we “needed”, we left the store with eight very heavy bags to carry home between the two of us. The walk from the grocery store to our apartment is less than a mile away; but with the sweat, torment, and frustration these heavy bags caused for us, the walk home was miserable to say the least. As soon as we walked out of the store and I longed for my car to put our groceries in, I knew I did not need at least half of what I had bought; I simply just wanted them.
I learned a lot from this experience and now think more carefully about what I am buying and if I actually need it when going to the store. This need versus want type of lifestyle reflects in many other aspects of Spanish culture. Apartments and restaurants are smaller here, there are no Targets, Costco’s, or Wal-Mart’s with everything you may “need” causing you to buy everything at once, and servers at restaurants are much slower in Spain because they are aware the people they are serving do not need their food right away, they just want it. This lifestyle allows the people in Spain to be more relaxed and much less stressed than Americans; and thus, brings me to my second lesson that less is more.
If Americans could learn to live with less, they would get much more out of life. I have noticed during the last couple of weeks that the people here walk much slower on the streets. They stop and talk with friends, enjoy the fresh air, and take their time enjoying their journey to their destination. In the streets of New York City, which do not look terribly different from the way Salamanca is designed, this is never the case. People are constantly alone walking as fast as they can to the place they “need” to be. People do not take the time to smile to their neighbor or even notice the whether outside because they are always stressed for time. My Spanish teacher who is a Spanish native, has told me on more than one occasion to relax and that “it’s okay” when I come to class frantic and apologizing for being late.
I believe if Americans could take away from what I have learned, we could reduce stress related health problems such as heart attacks or cancer. We need to learn we do not need the biggest house or the fanciest car, we do not need to buy a month’s worth supply of food at a time, we do not need to kill ourselves over getting to places on time; we just want these things. And if we could learn to live without them, we would be more satisfied with what we do have, less stressed about what we do not have, and given the opportunity to attain more meaningful aspects of life such as, time with friends or family.
I personally plan to embrace the lessons I have learned in hopes it will enhance my experience here in Salamanca as well as my life back at home. I believe I will get more out of life by having and wanting less. Life is too short to run through it in a hurry. I have faith these lessons will enable me to relax, take a step back, truly experience my life, and capture the beauty of the world around me.
Until next time…Ashley Rusonik <3